A sidebar - on my marriage
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When Lynn and I were engaged, one of the things that she proposed we do was to attend a workshop on connection. I was just talking with a friend and thought I’d pass this on to all my readers.
Lynn and I were just starting our lives together when this photograph was made. In her wisdom, Lynn got me to go to a weekend workshop with 5 other couples led by David and Donna Bowman and focused on “Imago Therapy” as laid out by Harville Hendricks in his works “Finding the Love You Want” and “Keeping the Love You Find” - both of which have been borne out even today when Lynn asked me, “Is there more?” after hearing my report out on my current internal climate.
The essence of this is that we each have imprinted within us, from a very young age, an inner set of settings established from our primary relationships. In my own case, I have a very strong reaction to any time that I am perceived to have fallen short of the mark - unjustly. Injustice and the powerlessness to prevent it from landing on me is my Achilles Heel. Understanding this, Lynn is less impacted by any reactions that I have. Similarly, I understand how important authenticity and honesty are to Lynn. She was raised not too dissimilarly from me in which how we appeared was far more important than how we are.
For myself, I tend to adopt the Mr. Rogers Method” as I call it. I like you (and Lynn) just the way you are. It keeps life simple.
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